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Where do you find men that appreciate a physically strong woman? Do they exist? After answering many forum questions and reading other inspirational speaking messages, I have to tell you that real men respect strong women. It seems everywhere in this society women are coerced into being "thin" and weak in order to attract men of low self esteem. As a result they get osteoporosis when are 60 and never live the lives they want because they are passive pushovers as a result of trying to be loved by these so called men. It makes me sick! I'm so tired of this.

I realize this will probably be an awkward question for me to be asking you, but think of it as a motivational question. "Do you let the influence of others keep you from being what you aspire to be?"

You must ask yourself this question in order to progress faster with your life and your exercise program because once you face this issue you won't be conflicted about becoming stronger as a woman. It is really inspirational and comforting to know that men are capable of loving and appreciating strong women and that you can find a mate who loves you for being the strong person that you are, even if that means not following the mainstream standards of "weak" women.

It's no secret that there are a lot of weak and insecure men out there. One only has to look at the many forms of physical and mental abuse that are a result of fragile male egos for proof.

Women owe it to themselves, their families and society to be healthy, fit and strong. Because only a women in a such a state can carry the burdens that come with being a wife, mom and income earner all at the same time. Despite all the progress in womens rights, this is one of the hardest times in my opinion for a women to keep it together mentally.

Often when a women starts to train, their male partner can feel several emotions that would lead to him wanting to sabotage her results. The sabotage can take many forms from verbal whispers of disapproval to a "me or the gym" ultimatum. Given the choice of a positive activity that will lead to a full an abundant life or an overbearing and insecure man that wants only a subordinate partner does not seem like too tuff of a choice.

The bottom line though is that only weak men are afraid of strong women. The man may feel a fear of loss. Now that his mate is going to look great and is getting her life and health in order, maybe she may find someone better. If she stays fat or overweight, his odds of her staying are greater. Its petty thinking but it does happen.

Occasionally, the late nights or early mornings at the gym bring thoughts of infidelity to an insecure mind. Why does she get up so early? What's so important at the gym that she is willing to go there even though she is tired? The simplest mental garbage is that now, she is going to look better than him. He is going to be the 4 and her the 8 in the relationship. That means he's the one that is "lucky" to be with her! Oh, my gosh!

What about the horrible fact that his girlfriend or wife could possibly kick his butt? That would mean that now he would have to trust in her love and respect for the relationship to work and not his alpha dog reign of power. My how the tides have turned.

The bottom line is that if you are in a relationship where your partner has a problem with you becoming more healthy, vibrant and full of strength and character, you are in the wrong relationship. Relationships are forged from mutual support for the betterment of each person involved. Never let someone else's lack of ambition and need of superiority keep your from becoming the butterfly that you were meant to be.

Ray Burton is a motivational speaker, an ISSA-certified personal trainer, philanthropist, and author of the best selling fat loss book, "Fat To Fit - The Journey . For info on Ray's book, visit the home page at: http://www.FatToFitBook.com. To read more of Rays FREE exercise and fitness tips, visit Buildingbodies.ca Health and Fitness. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Raymond_Burton